Top 10 Things You Should Know About Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW)
Men Going Their Own Way, a group commonly referred to as MGTOW, is a group of men who reject the hegemony of women at some level. As a whole, there are certain laws that members believe in. Each of these things is designed to help instil the autonomy and self-determination that these men want or need.
MGTOW is one of the most controversial groups on the Internet. They are not a terrorist group, they do not have regular meetings, and they do not get together to collectively target specific people. However, their beliefs are in direct contrast to the burgeoning feminist movement. This makes the group a target of both hate and misunderstanding.
Feminism has grown in influence over the last few decades. It is the result of the acceptance that women have been treated badly, or as second-class citizens, throughout history. It fuels change and inspires both men and women to do better in treating people equally.
MGTOW contrast the work of feminists intentionally. Many websites specifically state that members cannot be affiliated with feminism in anyway. This is because the beliefs of this group undermine feminist beliefs completely.
MGTOW, along with men’s rights groups, believe that femininity has changed for the worse. Most of these men have either struggled with poor or abusive relationships or are socially awkward and cannot get into a relationship at all.
But, whether you believe that women are fully fledged people who deserve rights and recognition or that women are designed to cook dinner and bear children, here are the top 10 things you should know about Men Going Their Own Way.
Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW) Is a Movement for Men Who Want to Reject Society’s Expectations
MGTOW says that men are expected by both society and women to work hard to become the perfect mate. The group believes in sovereignty for modern men by allowing them to choose their own destiny. Instead of taking a job that asks everything of them to support a woman who also asks everything from them, these men choose self-determination and autonomy by rejecting the societal requirement find and commit to a single mate.
Men involved in MGTOW believe that they should not be forced to do so much work only to be treated as a disposable thing by women. MGTOW is a rejection of marriage and a boycott against women. However, it is more than just a group of men who refuse to engage in relationships with the opposite sex.
The idea of MGTOW is supposed to demonstrate that the relationships between men and women are evolving. It is also designed to recognize the real, or perceived nature of women. It believes that relationships like the institution of marriage are over-sold and over-prioritized in today’s society.
Essentially, the men of GTOW reject the mating and dating rituals that they find to be abusive and manipulative. These men describe the experience of dating as a financial transaction in which they spend a huge amount of resources to receive a reward that is mediocre at best.
Men Going Their Own Way Are Not Men’s Rights Activists (MRAs)
MGTOW has little to nothing to do with the political activity that Men’s Rights Activists engage in. MRAs work to achieve goals like cutting government funding for abuse programs that include women but not men.
Beyond this, MGTOW do not like to be referred to collectively as MRAs. They believe that just because neither group wants to live under the tyranny of women does not make them the same type of group.
There are certain points where they agree. Both movements are a reaction to a growing and more encompassing feminism. However, men going their own way describe themselves not as a collective group but as an individual lifestyle choice.
The group says that everything that members need to know is clear within their name. When men go their own way, they can go whatever way they like. It is not a collective way. This is visible in the number of levels that exist within the group. Some men simply lament their previous relationships with women while others swear off of almost all interpersonal relationships that are not necessary for survival.
Men Going Their Own Way Are Not Pick-Up Artists (PUAs)
MGTOW and pick-up artists are very different groups of people. On the surface, a pick-up artist operates within a completely different theoretical framework as MGTOW. For pick-up artists, life is about going through as many women as possible. Some PUAs are all about playing the game; others are overcompensating for a period of shyness earlier in the life. Some PUAs are out to find a long-term partner but have no other method than pick-up artistry in achieving in their goals.
Pick-up artists are rarely accused of hating women like MGTOW are. Pick-up artists are accused of not respecting women or of manipulating women and accusing them of hatred of the oppose sex is a stretch for most people. However, disrespect is often equated with emotional violence in the game and so these accusations are uncommon but possible.
For a pick-up artists, the game is a source of fun and a means of reaching an end. The types of men involved in pick-up artistry vary more than they do in MGTOW. This is because the game is not just for men who have been burned. Men with varying successes with women will get involved in pick-up artistry.
Pick-up artists may be keenly aware of the social disparities between men and women that MGTOW and MRAs are so passionate about. But they do not let these thoughts get in the way with their relationships with women.
MGTOW Say That They Realize That Women Are Complex Individuals with Many Facets- They Just Don’t Want Any of Them
The typical MGTOW blogger or website will admit that women are more than just soul destroying creatures that are out to sleep with their friends and spend all their money. In fact, most MGTOW websites are happy to admit that women are complex people just like men. However, many MGTOW want very little from women other than a few compulsory items.
Many people who adopt this ideology believe that for a woman to redeem herself and be worthy a man’s time, they must only offer a few things. The first thing that most MGTOW agree on is that women should return to a more domestic place. They believe that women should be able to cook and clean and take care of household chores.
Secondly, men insist that women should offer sex fairly. For MGTOW, women cannot offer and facilitate sex and then decide that it was a mistake after it was over. Women should also not berate men for not being interested in sex.
Third, women offer the ability to have biological children, which is important for some levels of men who are going their own way.
Finally, if a woman plays her cards right and controls herself, she can offer MGTOW companionship. However, women should be kind, nurturing and supportive at all times.
MGTOW Have Decided That Valentine’s Day Is Now the International Day of Men Going Their Own Way
Men who subscribe to the MGTOW ideology believe that men have and always will do Valentine’s Day better. The group says that men spend twice as much on Valentine’s Day as women do. They believe that there is no reason that they should invest so many resources into Valentine’s Day and that women are undeserving of the time, attention and money spent on February 14th.
The group says that children have their own version of Valentine’s Day and that the day is Christmas. However, unlike grown women, children have no rights and are not in control of their own politics or emotions. According to these men, it is okay for kids to act spoiled on Christmas but grown women should know better.
MGTOW says that the amount of money spent on Valentine’s Day every year could help save children from starving in Africa. However, they also allege that women not only expect to spend money on frivolous things that they do not deserve but they also delight in the fact that the money is being diverted away from people who really need or deserve it.