Top 10 Things Guys Should Know About Flirting but somehow there are guys out there that don’t!
Do you always find yourself in a situation like this? You were in a bar, having a good time with your friends. Then suddenly, the door opened and a gorgeous woman appeared. She was so pretty – perfect eyes, beautiful hair, sexy body – everything! Then at that very moment, you got excited and thought about going to talk to her, or at least doing something that would make her pay attention to you. But when you were about to approach her, you suddenly lose your ability to move and stand, like you just twisted your ankle! And you started to imagine negative things that could happen, such as rejecting you or not reacting to you. Then, this guy in another corner stood up and said something on her, and the next thing you knew, they were laughing and heading somewhere else. Ouch!
You wish that guy was you – that you could be that guy who can walk up to a girl and tell her that you like her. Okay, breathe. Right now, you’re not that person; you’re not that kind of guy. Let’s accept the fact that you’re a shy type guy – someone who is socially inexperienced or suffering from social anxiety. Okay, that’s a bit harsh. But fret not. Asking a girl out can really be sometimes scary, especially when you haven’t done it before. And believe me when I say that many men struggle with that. In fact, everyone has been there at some point. But the best part is you could always be that person who can approach women and get them interested in you. The trick is you just have to know the most effective techniques that will help you flirt with a girl and succeed in making her falling in love with you. Ready? Here are the top 10 flirting techniques that you can use on a woman you like.
10. Make Eye Contact: The Correct Way
This is the most effective and easiest way to let someone know you’re interested in her. It’s subtle, and yet it gets the message across while at the same time creates some kind of attraction. Many guys start off by looking at the person because it’s the best way to show their intention without risking a face-to-face rejection. If you don’t know what to do or you don’t know what to say, eye contact flirting may be the best move to help you get the attention of the woman of your dreams and make an impression in no time.
Men who make and hold high level eye contact are perceived by women as confident and attractive. If you really find it difficult to do it, just remember that the ability to make and hold an eye contact is what most women want in a man. And that’s true. Women want to be looked at. It makes them feel good about themselves.
But it’s important to take note that when doing it, don’t begin with a full-on stare as this will make the girl uncomfortable. Start with looking at her for a few seconds. After you lock eye for a few seconds, drop your gaze. Then look back again, this time, a little bit longer. If the girl you like looks back at you, it’s a sign that she’s interested.
Eye contact is truly powerful, so it’s very important to learn how to flirt with eye contact. As what the Social Issues Research Centre say: “Your eyes are probably your most important flirting tool…they are also extremely high-powered transmitters of vital social signals.”
Okay, you’re shy and even making an eye contact is very difficult for you to do. But as what they say, there’s no harm in trying right? After all, eye contact is harmless. You could change a glance on anyone on the street, or while having your dinner at a restaurant, or while you’re sitting at the park, without losing anything – it’s something that all of us are free to do. Well, if you’re not used to it, you can always practice in front of the mirror. No, seriously! Also remember that eye contact is a skill that can be developed by experience.
It’s very important to take note that making eye contact is not just all that matters. If you really want to attract a woman, you must also project a warm and friendly vibe; otherwise she will think that you’re a lunatic. And the best way to do this is to smile. Aside from making eye contact, smiling is another universally accepted flirting technique that works for both men and women – well, of course, as long as you do it right.
There are basically two types of smiles, and the one that you should be going for is known as Duchenne smile, which raises your cheeks high and produces crow’s feet around your eyes. This kind of smile is the genuine type and it’s a very powerful tool for flirting. When you do it, it’s like saying to the girl that, “I like you, and I’m really glad to see you,” without actually speaking those words. However, it is important to make sure that your smile is directed to the person you like. When you do it, look straight into her eyes. If she looks and smiles back, it’s a sign that she’s interested, too, and she’s giving you a permission to approach. If she does that, head on over and go talk to her. If you don’t, somebody else will.
8. Dress to Impress
When it comes to flirting, looks are very important. Well, of course this doesn’t mean that you won’t get a girl if you don’t look like Brad Pitt or Ryan Gosling – that’s a total myth. In fact, most beautiful and hot sexy girls end-up with average guys. Why? Because most girls don’t focus much on the looks. What I mean about the phrase “looks are very important” is how you present yourself. When you’re trying to impress someone, you want to make sure that you’re dressed well and well-groomed.
While girls don’t give much importance about your physical beauty, they still prefer someone who take the time to make themselves look nice – someone who knows how to care for himself. If you can’t make the effort, girls will think that you’re a lazy and irresponsible person and will certainly not going to talk to you or even worse, will try to avoid you. Such a bad feeling, isn’t it? So don’t let that happen!
The question now is, do you need to spend a fortune to get decent clothing and hairstyle? No, you don’t. The trick here is to find some nice clothing; even if it’s cheap or second hand, as long as it feels comfortable to wear and it makes you look your best, it is great. Do some research to find the best clothes and hairstyle that suit you best. If you have a budget, you can hire a personal consultant. But if you don’t, you can ask some friends for advice. Just remember that when choosing the right clothing, it crucial to also consider your skin tone, body shape, and hair color.
7. Smell Good
Remember that besides looking great, smelling good should also be your priority when going out someplace where you might meet the girl you would like. Believe it or not, scent has actually a lot to do with captivating ladies. Have you ever wondered why some men, who are not even so good-looking, consistently attract beautiful women? Well, chances are their scent is so sexy and seductive, making them irresistible to women.
Studies show that men who smell great are more appealing to the opposite sex. In a recent study conducted at Oxford University, women were asked to rate men’s attractiveness based on their headshots. While they reviewed each guy’s photos, the women were simultaneously exposed to different scents – some pleasant and some are not. In the presence of pleasant scents, the women rated guys as being much attractive. On the other hand, they rated male faces as being less attractive in the presence of unpleasant smells.
Still not convinced? Just think about this, do you think women would like to talk to you if you have unbearable odor? Women dislike men with bad hygiene. It’s among the top turn offs for them. If you really want to get the attention of the girl you like even without expending much effort, then try your best to smell nice. Believe me, it will drive girls crazy.
6. Touch Her
Touching a girl is all part of the plan of making her like you. (But of course not the touch that you’re thinking about!) Touch is one of the most powerful ways of connecting with other people. It’s also a great way to let someone know how you feel about her. If you’re not touching the person you like, you’re sending a very specific message that you don’t have any interest in her. But if you touch her, you’re letting this person know that you have something “more than just a friend” in mind. But again, you need to do this in the right way; otherwise, you’ll annoy her or just creep her out.
For instance, if you’re flirting with a girl that you just met, you can start with a simple introductory handshake, but make sure that you hold on to her hand a little longer than expected. How long? Well, at least long enough for her to notice. Then while talking, find an excuse to brush up against her – touch her shoulder when she says something amazing, or touch her arm when she says something funny. Just remember to always start with small steps to avoid giving off a creepy vibe. As your relationship starts to progress, you can gradually move to much more intimate form of touching.
In terms of flirting, a gradual touch is very important. It will not just make her feel more comfortable with you, but it will also make her feel closer and want more of you. That’s right! Remember that in order to successfully get a girl, you should always leave her wanting more. If you make the game too easy for her, she will lose her interest and move on to the next one. So touch her, but don’t touch her too often or too long. This makes you more desirable because the more you leave her hanging, the more you become mysterious. And the more you become mysterious, the more she will want to know you better.